This page is dedicated to getting information out to as many people as possible about the effect's that bullying has upon not only gay teens, as recently heard so much in the news, but against anyone who feels physically or mentally abused by such bullying. It's time that parent's, school boards and administrators and teachers, and bullies accepted consequences for either their actions or lack of action.
I will do everything I can do help promote any program that educates the groups mentioned above and to help those being persecuted through the web, school programs, distribution of information, whatever it takes to prevent any teen from taking his or her life because some bully is getting enjoyment out of harassing them. THIS HAS TO STOP!
Do you worry that your child is being harassed at school? Heed the following warning signs, adapted from Jay McGraw's new book, Jay McGraw's Life Strategies for Dealing with Bullies:
- Intentional, aggressive behavior
- Imbalance of power
- Repeated over time
- Physical, verbal intimidation
- Cyber harassment
Warning signs that your child may be the victim of bullying:
1. Makes up excuses not to go to school
2. Is often angry, sad or depressed, withdrawn, self-loathing and emotionally erratic
3. Frequently hurt by a particular person or group of people
4. Frequently picked on in the presence of other people
5. Mistakes are turned into a big deal by someone
6. Belongings are often stolen or taken
7. Always being confronted with lies/rumors
How parents encourage bullying in their own children:
- Exercise absolute control over child
- Threaten the child with spankings or other violence
- Attempt to humiliate or embarrass the child as a way to punish them
- Rule by fear
- Push competition and contest too much
- Teach their child that mistakes are unacceptable
- Tell their child what to say, do or think
If your child is being picked on by a bully, sit down with him or her and go over this list of Do's and Don'ts to keep them safe:
2. Don’t believe the insults about you.
3. Don’t overestimate how much power a bully has over you.
4. Don’t think that bullying will stop if you ignore it.
5. Don’t waste time in places online where bullies target you.
6. Don’t be afraid to think of new ways to solve the conflict.
7. Don’t believe you deserve to be picked on.
8. Do get real about bullying and how it makes you feel.
9. Do get angry, but keep anger under control.
10. Do write down how you feel.
11. Do learn to say and believe good things about yourself.
12. Do speak confidently when telling a bully not to physically touch you.
13. Do work on developing at least one good relationship with a classmate, neighbor and/or older child.
14. Do walk or run away if a bully tries to hurt you.
GLSEN - Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
STOP BULLYING - provides information from various government agencies on how kids, teens, young adults, parents, educators and others in the community can prevent or stop bullying.
CNN-US - Parents and Teachers: CNN Student News has compiled the following tips, discussion questions, videos, articles and online resources that can be used to address bullying with students.
Ellen Degeneress - Anti-Bullying Resources Blog and Information
Bully - Anti-Bullying events for young people by young people. Strategies to tackle the bully, bullies and bullying. Anti-Bullying Strategies, Solutions and Events.
Lesson Plans for Teachers - Find teacher reviewed anti-bullying ideas, from character education to character count.
Bullying Prevention Information: Resources for Schools - PDF file with resources and information by Warren Throckmorton, PhD
Anti-Bullying Programs - offers training, programs, and support that allow you to create a customized initiative. All modules incorporate the current research and literature on bullying prevention and intervention.